Parenting – Fragments Against Ruin http://tonywoodlief.com Wed, 11 Oct 2017 02:11:45 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.5 The unlovable http://tonywoodlief.com/2016/11/10/the-unlovable/ http://tonywoodlief.com/2016/11/10/the-unlovable/#comments Thu, 10 Nov 2016 17:56:15 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=4720 I guess before you read the rest of this you should decide how you feel about the fact that I didn’t vote for either of them. Nor did I vote for the Libertarian, or the lady who makes Bernie Sanders look like Milton Friedman and whose name I’ve already forgotten. I voted in every other …

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A note about the end http://tonywoodlief.com/2016/09/29/4699/ http://tonywoodlief.com/2016/09/29/4699/#comments Thu, 29 Sep 2016 16:13:03 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=4699 I used to write much more about my children, but they’re growing despite my best efforts to conserve groceries, and they’re online in their various ways, and so it makes sense to let them tell their own stories, in their own time, in their own ways. I mean I know there are writers who tell …

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Politics, porn, and football http://tonywoodlief.com/2014/10/14/politics-porn-and-football/ Tue, 14 Oct 2014 16:09:39 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=4543 Some of you may like my attempt, though it probably deserves more thought, to articulate why we pay little attention to big-money sports in my home. Here’s an excerpt: Now, let’s not quibble over semantics; I know the Canadians spent millions on a national curling center, that parents of gymnasts fork over thousands for training, …

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The world we show them http://tonywoodlief.com/2014/02/13/the-world-we-show-them/ http://tonywoodlief.com/2014/02/13/the-world-we-show-them/#comments Thu, 13 Feb 2014 18:20:28 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=4118 “Which world do you want to live in?” My oldest son, just days from his 14th birthday, glares back at me. Behind him in the car sit his brothers. Their hands are pressed to their faces. One of them is crying. Caleb begins to explain why he smacked them. Eli was needling him about something. Isaac, …

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The ministering parent http://tonywoodlief.com/2014/01/23/the-ministering-parent/ http://tonywoodlief.com/2014/01/23/the-ministering-parent/#comments Thu, 23 Jan 2014 18:43:45 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=3794 Do you ever look on your children, and wish they had better than you? Back when we were shopping my embarrassingly confessional first book, my agent at the time told me I needed a ministry to accompany it. She said this as a realist, not an enthusiast. You need a platform to sell your wares. …

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The Cost of Calling: The Answer http://tonywoodlief.com/2014/01/09/the-cost-of-calling-the-answer/ http://tonywoodlief.com/2014/01/09/the-cost-of-calling-the-answer/#comments Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:29:53 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=3782 I come now to the question in my heart when I began: what can my sons say to a deceived and soul-sickened world? You might remember the story of a girl murdered that awful day in Columbine. As this story goes, one of the demoniac boys asked if she believed in God, and when she …

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The Cost of Calling: Compromises http://tonywoodlief.com/2014/01/02/the-cost-of-calling-compromises/ http://tonywoodlief.com/2014/01/02/the-cost-of-calling-compromises/#comments Thu, 02 Jan 2014 17:38:30 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=3776 What is the cost of a calling? You can be called to be a parent; you can be called to be a plumber. But having a child, or picking up a pipe wrench, is not—in and of itself—to pursue a calling. The world is filled with parents and plumbers, after all, who don’t do their …

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The Cost of Calling http://tonywoodlief.com/2013/12/26/the-cost-of-calling/ http://tonywoodlief.com/2013/12/26/the-cost-of-calling/#comments Thu, 26 Dec 2013 20:34:42 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=3764 Many parents carry within our hearts—sometimes in a cramped and even despairing corner—a vision of what we hope our children will become. This vision lives deeper than our wish that they be doctors or NFL quarterbacks, deeper even than our desire for their happiness. Our heart-dwelling hope is that they will be good and true, that …

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The professor in the home http://tonywoodlief.com/2013/12/17/the-professor-in-the-home/ http://tonywoodlief.com/2013/12/17/the-professor-in-the-home/#comments Wed, 18 Dec 2013 03:25:36 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=3753 Every month, money flies from my checking account to the education savings accounts of my children, because I don’t want them to become hobos. This is one way I allay my fear the world will eat them up. It’s a mark of a good parent to worry over where—and whether—his child will go to college, …

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Sheep and wolves http://tonywoodlief.com/2013/04/24/sheep-and-wolves/ http://tonywoodlief.com/2013/04/24/sheep-and-wolves/#comments Wed, 24 Apr 2013 12:55:35 +0000 http://tonywoodlief.com/?p=3677 Because I am a father I think about the parents of that boy torn to pieces, of his sister whose leg was taken. I think about those parents in Newtown, whose biggest Christmas purchases were coffins for their sons and daughters. I think on the parents of the killers, too, and sometimes I am afraid, …

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