Sand in the Gears

The Cost of Calling: The Answer

Thursday, January 9th, 2014 Posted in The Art of Parenting, The Sermons | 18 Comments »

I come now to the question in my heart when I began: what can my sons say to a deceived and soul-sickened world? You might remember the story of a girl murdered that awful day in Columbine. As this story goes, ...

The Cost of Calling: Compromises

Thursday, January 2nd, 2014 Posted in The Art of Parenting, The Sermons | 16 Comments »

What is the cost of a calling? You can be called to be a parent; you can be called to be a plumber. But having a child, or picking up a pipe wrench, is not—in and of itself—to pursue a ...

The Cost of Calling

Thursday, December 26th, 2013 Posted in Fatherhood, The Art of Parenting | 12 Comments »

Many parents carry within our hearts—sometimes in a cramped and even despairing corner—a vision of what we hope our children will become. This vision lives deeper than our wish that they be doctors or NFL quarterbacks, deeper even than our desire ...

Uninterested

Wednesday, June 5th, 2013 Posted in The Artful Life | Comments Off on Uninterested

Finally, fiction from me that doesn't involve death or melancholy or predestination or anything else likely to induce heavy drinking. It's all dialogue, and I wrote it years ago whilst sitting utterly uninspired and bored in a large corporate bureaucracy. ...

Problem-rushers

Tuesday, December 4th, 2012 Posted in Uncategorized | 5 Comments »

We're trying to find an office manager, and so I've had to articulate what makes for a good employee. This is a treacherous and particularized endeavor, because the people who appear to be good employees for other bosses would likely ...

Not home

Thursday, November 11th, 2010 Posted in Faith and Life, Fatherhood | 7 Comments »

On Sunday nights, after I've tucked in the boys, after I've packed my bags for another trip, I write each of them a note. I tell Caleb that I love the way he takes care of his younger brothers, or ...

Laboring days

Monday, September 6th, 2010 Posted in Faith and Life, Fatherhood | 1 Comment »

I've cut grass and cleaned offices and guarded buildings; I've been a grill cook and a college teacher and a karate instructor. I've bussed tables and stocked labs and punched numbers; I've managed more emotional twenty-somethings than I can count, ...

A Son’s Tale

Wednesday, June 20th, 2007 Posted in The Art of Parenting, The Artful Life | 2 Comments »

My writer friend Darren Defrain recently turned me on to Andre Dubus, and so I've been working through his stories and essays. He has, as another writer friend describes it, a lyrical voice. You can see faith in his stories, ...